3 Essential Questions to Ask Before You Post Anything Online

Write like the Wind

“It is wise to apply the oil of refined politeness to the mechanisms of friendship” ~ Colette

In today’s digital age where you can post anything you want across a variety of media, Facebook, widgets, chat rooms, in a matter of seconds many are falling victim to their own posts. In today’s digital world everything seems to be centered on speed. We’ve got to get the tech faster so we can live our lives faster. FASTER!!! FASTER!!! FASTER!!!! The issue is when people can communicate faster they often times do not send their intended message clearly. Taking more time gives people more time to think and to answer some essential questions. If you want to avoid awkward encounters with friends, bosses, coworkers or anyone else in your digital world please do yourself a favor and ask yourself these three questions before you post anything online.

There are no emoticons to accurately translate SARCASM

There are no emoticons to accurately translate SARCASM

1. Does this need to be said (Am I really saying what I mean)? 

Sure you theoretically can write a comment or blog post where you trash talk your boss but just being able to do something does not mean you should. If you’ve gotten though the first half of this question and decided that yes, your message is one that needs to be put out there, you had better take at least a moment or two and make sure that you are delivering it clearly. Oh and for all of my friends who are fans of sarcasm remember that without the usage of emoticons sarcasm never comes across well online.

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2. Does this need to be said by me?

Sure certain messages might be needed, but you might not be the one to say it. For example, if you constantly post pictures of yourself getting drunk and partying, you might not be the one to tell your friend that they need to go to AA meetings. The message there might be a good one, but in that situation chances are your friend wouldn’t take it seriously because it came from you.

Timing is Everything!!

Timing is Everything!!

3. Is my message something I need to say now?

If you gotten though the first steps and have come to the conclusion that yes the message needs to be said you you’re the one to do it, you need to remember that timing is key in every aspect of communication. For example say your friend’s grandmother just died and they’ve been posting about it all day, that is probably not a good day to post a funny joke onto their Facebook wall. Maybe the joke is good and on most days your friend would enjoy it, but you’ve got to think of what kind of mental/emotional state your friend is in and if they’re likely to take the joke well.   “Sometimes being a friend means mastering the art of timing. There is a time for silence. A time to let go and allow people to hurl themselves into their own destiny.” ~ Octavia Butler

If you keep these few questions in mind when you attempt to communicate online, you will be far less likely to say something you don’t mean and you’ll also be more capable of saying the things you mean clearly.

Exercise of the Day

Exercise of the Day

Exercise of the day:  The 20 Years Exercise

Pick your favorite romantic couple from literature, film, television etc, and write a short story describing their lives 20 years after the end of their story. For example if we ignore the things that happened in Scarlett, the sequel to Gone with the Wind, what might Rhett Butler and Scarlett’s lives be like? Would they have gotten back together? If Romeo and Juliet had lived would they have stayed in love? Just pick a pair and have some fun with it!

So long for now folks!!!!

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12 responses to “3 Essential Questions to Ask Before You Post Anything Online

  1. Yes, yes, and again yes. Great post.

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  2. I agree and I don’t. Definitely sensible advice for anyone thinking about posting anything, but on the other hand, the internet would be a lonely place if we were all sensible. While vitriol and drama can go way too far of course, I kind of like the seething mass of insanity that forums and blogs can be – its humanity at its worst and best, and there is a weird value to that, I think,

    Claire

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    • These are more like my personal guidelines for online communications. Sure I screw up every now and again, but these are just a few little things I try to think of when I post online. I have witnessed the progression of the internet’s communications from Greatest Journal, to MySpace, then Facebook. In the beginning it really didn’t matter if you posted inappropriate things because not many people were online yet. Nowadays so many people have access to what you post so it pays to be careful. There are times when I think it’s better just to go out and buy a diary. That way I can deal with and release any pent up emotions in a healthy way without putting them out there for the world to see.

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  4. It seems like sound advice that many people need to read and use as their personal guideline. Might save some time of those who might fall victim of reading some of the garbage that the Web can display. Great post.

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  5. I love the title of your blog. Writing can be a lonely profession. It’s nice when co-writers recognize each other. Thank for becoming a follower of my blog. Lots of luck with your writing craft.

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